The Day after Valentine's Day


The much hailed Valentine Day is over.  Was it a good one for you?  If it wasn’t, you weren’t alone.  For anyone who is overcoming a failed relationship or has lost a loved one, Valentine’s Day can be a painful reminder of the loss.  And it doesn’t feel very good if you’re really wanting a relationship but just haven’t attracted one yet. Seeing all those romantic ads with happy lovers can be a downer.  You may need to put some effort into tuning out the romantic noise and replace it with something that lifts you up. 

The emotionally intelligent side of you  knows  you are a resilient one, a seeker who knows how to look for the silver lining.  Remind yourself that the most important relationship we’ll ever have is with ourselves.  If we don’t love and take care of ourselves, how can we expect anyone else to?  So here’s my advice if you’re feeling a little blue:

  1. Eat well today.  Imagine you are having a most important guest for dinner tonight.  What will you prepare?  I have a beautiful menu right here for you - just follow the link.  And who is that most important guest?  YOU.  Make yourself this marvelous meal. YOU DESERVE IT.

  2. Dress beautifully today (and every day, for that matter).  If you’ve been walking around all winter in stretch pants and over shirts, go to your closet and choose a beautiful outfit.  If you don’t have one, go shopping with a friend  something to rock in. YOU DESERVE IT. 

And while we’re on the topic of loving yourself, have you ever noticed when you are upbeat and energized you tend to attract attention?  It’s no accident that this happens.  Our bodies and minds have an electric or vibrational quality to them. When you are in ‘the zone’ you actually radiate a vibration that will in turn attract a like vibration.

Remind yourself of what makes you happy, what makes you feel good, and go do it.  Whether it’s a steamy hot bowl of soup, a bouquet of your favorite flowers, or a walk outside in nature, go for it!  Lift yourself up and create a vibration that is irresistible.  Shower yourself with love.  Celebrate the day after Valentine’s Day like never before.  

Remember, if you don’t love yourself, who will?  For most of us, it takes a lifetime of practice before we remember to, but it’s worth the effort.

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