I’ve met so many wonderful people in the 20 years I’ve had my practice. Some come for wellness, using shiatsu or Reiki as their tools for feeling better and staying well. Others come for nutrition support and are seeking ways to feel better, reduce disease and lose weight.

There is something common to all of them. At the root of nearly every problem or challenge is a lack of self-compassion or self-love. People push themselves, get angry with themselves or call themselves names, leading to imbalances in their energy and health, things they would never do to someone they loved.

Because of this, it seems the first thing any of us must do is learn to love ourselves. To forgive ourselves for times when we may not have taken care of ourselves or called ourselves names. Only then can we actively move toward success in reaching our health goals. That success starts on the inside, on how we feel about ourselves.

For this reason, if you are unsure that you have self-love, I invite you to ask yourself the following questions. It wll help you see just how you view yourself and how you might change old attitudes, and really learn to love yourself. Once you’re there, healing can begin.

Be sure to answer ALL of the questions honestly.

Self-Love Quiz:

  1. When you look in the mirror, do you look at your flaws, rather than see the real beauty of everything about you?

  2. Do you feel unloveable because you don’t think you’re smart enough, funny enough, beautiful enough, rich enough?

  3. When someone gives you a compliment, do you think they are lying and minimize what they say about you?

  4. When you make a mistake, do you feel disgusted with yourself and dwell on it, ignoring the things you do well?

  5. Are you unable to speak up for yourself, thinking that all criticism coming your way is justified?

  6. Do you feel bad or guilty about taking time for yourself when you know some things need to be done?

  7. Do you feel everyone around you is better than you are?

  8. When you feel stressed, do you turn to distractions like the computer or self-destructive habits such as binge eating, alcohol, drugs, or smoking?

  9. When you walk, are your shoulders set or do you slouch and act invisible?

  10. Are you comfortable in your own skin, feel like you know who you are?

  11. Do you worry that your friends won’t like you if you don’t do what they ask?

  12. Do you have a hard time setting boundaries and allow people to walk all over you?

  13. Do you know how to ask for what you want?

  14. Can you say no when you don’t want to do soemthing?

  15. Can you look yourself in the eye and say “I like you?”

If you answered YES to:

3 Questions or Less –

Answering these questions honestly is the first step in seeing where you need to change, Good job! Keep it up and know that you are worth it! Notice when you are critical of yourself and when that voice in your head is telling you that you are unwirthy or imperfect in any way. Replace negative thoughts with a reminder of something you have done really well. Build on that.

4-7 Questions –

You are on the right path. Keep asserting yourself and practicing self-love. It’s like a muscle memory - the more you do it the easier it gets to honor yourself and surround yourself with people who respect you.

8-10 Questions –

Awesome! You’re almost there. Keep reminding yourself that you are worth it, that every act of self-love deepens your belief that you are a magnificent being. You stand taller, smile more and know you have much to offer the world.

11-15 Questions –

Congratulations! You are a shining example of what it means to practice self-love. Keep doing what you are doing. You will inspire others and raise the energetic vibration of yourself and those aroud you, something that is sorely needed in this strife-filled world. Noticing your thoughts is a great way to slow the snowball effect of self-abuse. You deserve to be treated like the masterpiece that you are, and it all starts with you listening to your inner voice, being gentle on yourself, and practicing self-care.How has this self-love quiz changed your thinking? Are you comfortable sharing your personal results of this self-love quiz with us?

Did this quiz make you realize that you need more self-love in your life? If you’d like, please share your answers with us in the comments section below!